THIS QUESTION IS FOR ANYONE WITH ADVICE!!! MAYA HAS BEEN HOME FOR A YEAR NOW. I HAVE ONLY LEFT HER FOR 2.5 HOURS TO DO SOMETHING FOR ME. I DO HAVE TO LEAVE HER WHEN I GO TO WORK BUT THAT IS A MUST, TRUST ME IT IS NOT FUN FOR MAMA. I AM STARTING TO WANT A LITTLE MAMA TIME. IS THAT WRONG?? AM I A BAD MAMA FOR WANTING SOME TIME FOR JUST ME?? EVERYTIME I THINK I AM READY TO LEAVE HER AND DO SOMETHING FOR MYSELF, MY GUILT KICKS IN. I FEEL LIKE I WOULD BE A HORRIBLE MAMA IF I JUST LEAVE HER FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS. I ALWAYS END UP TAKING HER EVERYWHERE I GO. I LOVE TAKING HER PLACES AND I LOVE SPENDING ALL MY SPARE TIME WITH HER BUT...... I JUST THINK I NEED A FEW HOURS FOR JUST ME. I GUESS I FEEL THAT SINCE I WANTED HER SO BAD AND FOUGHT SO HARD TO GET HER HOME, I SHOULDN'T WANT TO LEAVE HER. I KNOW THIS PROBABLY SOUNDS CRAZY TO SOME BUT IT IS THE WAY I FEEL.
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- I am a single mother with a daughter from Guatemala. I brought her home on August 21st, 2007. I am loving every second of motherhood. Maya is the love of my life. I can't imagine life without her. I thank God everyday that she is home in my arms.
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I don't know if everyone will agree with me - but I think you HAVE to have time for yourself. I have it easier then you do - I can take off and Jay can be with Alex. But, I try to get out at least once a month for me time. It's usually just going out with my friend for dinner (or to play Bingo!!). I think it makes me a better mama - let's me refresh my batteries.
If you can swing it (I belive) you should go do something for yourself - without your sweet litle girl.
Ginger, I agree with Kim, You have to have Mommy time..Me on the other hand I never get any MOMMY time. My husband is always working and No grandparents around!!
You are totally normal, You need to do stuff for yourself, One day I will find time to do just that!!!!
Og my goodness girlie!! You have to recharge and refresh yourself with some me-time!! I truly believe that doing just that makes you a BETTER parent- more patient, more calm, etc. I know it does for me. I do have the luxury of family close by, but am making a concerted effort to get Maya comfortable with several babysitters as well- it is important for her to not be so attached to me and my family that I cannot leave her with anyone else. And it is good for me to get the time away. Never feel guilty about this . It is natural, and ok, and even good. It means that she is adjusting well enough that you can even consider it! You go girl...get some me time!!
Ditto the previous commenters. You will be a much better mother in the time you do spend with Maya if you take some time for yourself here and there.
Kerri, Medina, and Ruby
Oh yeah mommmy time is a must. Because if you don't get time to yourself to recharge and such, you are going to burn out.
It can be as simple and going out to get your hair done or getting groceries. You'd be surprised how those few hours alone help make you a better mommy!
You HAVE to do somethings by yourself... Trust me... I have this little thing glued to my hip, and you have seen it... It is called Angelena... She will be home amost 2 years now... The only time I don't have her glued to me is at work... And look at me... I AM IN SANE~! So, if you can get some time... DO IT~ JUST DO IT~
I haven't been even able to go to the bathroom by myself unless I am at work..
You are not nuts, crazy, selfish, or even a bad mommy... You are one of the best mommy's I know...
So, bring Maya to me, and take some time off... One of us have to!~
HUGS
Ellie
Speaking from a mom's perspective (wow, that's still weird to say lol).. I think you have to have some time alone. Todd and I try to have some alone time about once a month. I always hate to leave Ava and always miss her dearly, but I think it is necessary to get away. While your kids naturally come first in your life, that doesn't mean YOU get thrown away completely...
I felt the same way when Libby came home! So about 5-6 months after we had her, I went out to a movie AFTER she went to bed. I felt less guilty that way... since then, I try to do things like once or twice a month for just me (or Dan & me) -- but with two little ones... it's still not easy!
I agree with the other commenters. I have learned that I am a better mom if I do take some time for myself. I am a girly girl, so I like to go and get a pedi or even go to Starbucks and drink a latte in peace. I also enjoy going to buy groceries when someone is watching Abbie! (LOL) You are not a bad mom for wanting some time for you. You need to take time for yourself- you will be a better mom for it! Plus, it will give Maya a chance to learn that if you leave, you will be back. Should something ever happen to you- God Forbid- Maya will be used to spending time with others.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Karen
Ginger.... You are absolutely NOT wrong to want and NEED some me time. It really refreshes you and is not selfish. It took me a long time to realize this and take some of this time for myself. I don't do it often, but I do try to get several hrs on the weekends to myself. This past weekend, we dropped her off at someone's house(for the first time) and she spent the entire day there. Both mommy and daddy had time to get things done. I must say, it was luxurious!
Gabriella starts school tomorrow for 2 days a week(4 hrs a day) and I'll admit it's partially for me to have some time, not just for her to socialize and get some good play time in.
I think I suffer from the guilt too. A good mom needs "alone" time to be a happy mom... ya know what I mean.
Treat yourself to something you enjoy and haven't been able to do since Maya came home. You will feel so refreshed after. You are a great mom. That is why you are worried about doing this. Good moms always worry about their little ones.
Have fun.
Ginger, I agree with all the comments. I suffer from the same guilt disease and being a single Mother makes it harder for me.
If you ever need to talk let me know ;)
I was thinking about you yesterday. I took some time for myself. It was great! Please do it! It will be hard at first- but it will be worth it in the end.
Love ya!
Karen
It is completely normal to want some mommy time. Us mommies actually need it to help us stay sane. :) I am only away from Gabriella when I go to work and when I make my weekly Walmart shopping trip. I find myself extending my Walmart trip as much as possible just to enjoy the alone time. I really need to find a better way to get some mommy time. Hope you are able to get some mommy time soon!!
Robyn
Go do something for yourself and don't feel guilty about it. You deserve some "me" time. Courtney
Being a single mom is hard work but very rewarding! You need some "me" time, and I don't think you should feel guilty about getting it. I don't get alone time very often, but once in a while I make sure it happens. By the end of those few hours, I am so excited to see my baby again!
Wow- let me just say that time away is as important for her as it is for you. She needs to learn how to self-soothe herself while you are not there. It is important in the development of her personality and she needs to know that she can count on hreself as much as she can count on you. (I've read books... I had questions myself.)
Peace and Hugs,
Becca
I know this post was a while back, but I had to chime in and say that, if you haven't already, you need a girl's night out!
Also wanted to give you our son's blog site since I know you used to follow Ariana's before she died. Ben's blog is www.keepingthefaithadoption.blogspot.com
how are things going??
I hope you are finding time for yourself!
Ginger,
Are you okay? It's not like you to go over a month without a post!
Love and prayers,
Karen
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